It’s a good feeling knowing that you and I can do whatever it is we desire. You may not be having the perfect life or where you thought you’d be, but faint not; your good years are ahead of you. Nothing wrong with having a dream and walking the talk.
We all have a story to tell. Some good and others not so good. Behind the scenes there’s always a back story. It may be money, marriage, relationships, health or other controversies.
We look at a neighbour and think, ‘what a perfect family’. There are people we know whom their very existence paint a beautiful picture. Perfect couple, family, house, job, almost everything. But it doesn’t always mean that’s what happening in real life. Indeed, the picture may look perfect, but may not be telling the whole truth.
In some of the perfectness we see around us, you’ll never know the bullying and controlling behind the scenes.
Every stage in life is work in progress. Picture perfect or not.
Your back story, like mine, may be grief. Grieving is a process. Losing someone is bad enough, but pretending they never existed is plain wrong. The pain doesn’t go away but it becomes faint, like a receding headache.
The point I’m trying to make is that if you want it enough, go for it. Hindrances will always be there. That’s life.
Your life yours to live
Life should not be a reality television but yours to live. Vision and drive.
Understand yourself before anyone else does. You don’t need any validation from anybody. Or authentication from someone. We all have power. Nobody has the right to tell you that ‘you’ll be nothing without me’. Some people forget that you were doing okay without them. They may be the reason you lost focus, when you depended on them to save you rather than your capabilities and God given grace.
It happens, we hear and read about it, ” I changed your life, I made you”! Really?
If it is too good to be true, walk away.
Too good to be true
If it is too good to be true, walk away. We are all looking for that someone who will take care of us. Save us. Protect us. Someone tells you that they love you. ‘I love you more than anything in the world.’ Or ‘you’ve been chosen by me,’ Someone to make everything okay, solve all your problems without being reminded that ‘I did this for you; you’ll be nothing without me’, If that’s the the case please show me the way. Whatever that lady/ gentleman is having, I’ll have that too.
Maybe you’re coming out of a difficult situation or relationship. The past is gone, its time to move forward.
Forgive your mother, father whoever you need to forgive because its difficult to move forward carrying all the burden. According to Carolyn Miller;
“Unforgiveness is a poison that shrivels the heart. It means a person cannot truly live in the present as they’re always thinking about the past.”
Some its been 50 years still hanging on not letting go.
You may have been told to go home, brushed aside not good enough, or fallen hard and having difficulty to start all over again.
Maybe it’s always someone , somebody’s fault and not you, society’s fault even.
Everybody is staring? Let them stare, don’t let them decide.
It’s time to come out of your shell.
We come against boundaries. In our teens, college and so on. We have done some stuff we know we shouldn’t have done. Some boundaries have had serious repercussion in our life.
What boundaries have you crossed to get where you are?
The further away the boundaries we cross the more dangerous they become.
You may find oneself getting angry often. Snapping at someone all the time. Not understanding what you’ve become or are becoming.
Allow yourself room for error.
Remember, we all live in glass houses. Yes, all of us have faults, who doesn’t?
If we can forgive past and present injustices why are you hard on yourself. Life doesn’t stop. That’s why we continue to fight injustice because we are all enraged by it. On a personal level, we move away from those boundaries we’ve crossed to make ourselves better persons.
Free your mind
I am thankful for the ability to dream and I’m working hard on walking the talk.
You have power.
See the good things in your life.
Trust your decision making.
Stop admiring what may appear picture perfect from the outside by keeping in your lane.
Your life may not be picture perfect but your life is worth it.
According to J. Cole;
- “We ain’t picture perfect but we worth the picture still.”